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💭 One of the most damaging mentalities that was fed to us from a young age is that in order to ‘be a Man’ you must not show any form of weakness. That when things get tough you just ‘man up,’ internalize it & deal with it yourself. That we should never allow ourselves to be vulnerable. Mental health wasn’t something to be talked about, & to show your emotions as a man meant you were weak.
💩WHAT A LOAD OF SHIT! 😂
These unhealthy, traditional mentalities were born in an era which is now well in the past. I mean, if you think about it, this was really from a time where mom was expected to be the housekeeper & cook while only dad should be the breadwinner. It came from an era where racial and social equality was *obviously not a thing* and domestic violence was often just a part of life.
So if our society is (thankfully) moving beyond these limiting, outdated ideologies including the ‘roles’ men & women are expected to play, why would we hang on to this concept that ‘masculine strength’ comes only from a lack of vulnerability?
If anything, this mentality has been the spawn of a men’s mental health crisis which has manifested itself in the form of a whole lot of us walking around with a wild amount of unaddressed emotional baggage; going in & out of social scenarios (both romantic & platonic) completely unaware of the toxic behaviours we are inherently carrying with us.
At the end of the day, the only way to heal ourselves and facilitate personal growth is to be raw & honest with ourselves, lower our walls, allow ourselves to be vulnerable. We must also allow those close to us to get an understanding of what’s going on behind the scenes. True strength isn’t obtained hiding from the unwelcome realities of life, but from boldly facing our issues with the determination and confidence to conquer them.
‘Vulnerability is not winning or losing; it’s having the strength to show up be seen when we have no control over the outcome. Vulnerability is not weakness; it’s our greatest measure of courage’
VULNERABILITY IS THE NEW WAY TO MAN UP. 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼
Catch a feelin.
🫀⚡️🧠 Us humans really do have such an interesting relationship with our feelings, don’t we?
We spend our whole lives seeking out the happy feelings, feelings of love, inspiration, happiness, fulfilment..We dedicate all our time-off to the pursuit of these positive feelings.
Sometimes we take the biggest leaps, make our most-important decisions off of a feeling.. Other times we deny ourselves of an experience, or say No to something because of a ‘gut-feeling’ we have.. So why is it that when a negative feeling comes along such as sadness, disappointment, heartbreak or fear.. We work as rapidly as we can to discredit them, eradicate these feelings from our minds, claiming to ourselves that they are of no help, that we should ignore it because its “just a feeling”
We often tell ourselves that these types of feelings have no place in our lives, but in reality they are equally as important as the positive ones. Life is all about balance. Without experiencing true sadness we cannot experience and value true happiness. Without experiencing frustration and anger, we wouldn’t be able to appreciate life when things are effortlessly working in our favour.
We wouldn’t be able to absorb the moments when we feel completely at ease, relaxed and at peace. Without rain, there would be no flowers. Without darkness, the Light would have no meaning.
We live in a society where we are sold everything based off a manipulation of our positive feelings, yet simultaneously we ( especially men ) are often told that acknowledging our negative ones is a form of weakness, when In reality, avoiding the negative feelings is the only form of weakness there is.
We must learn to accept all feelings into our lives, appreciating and experiencing them deeply, then letting them go and being ok with doing so- Good or Bad. Feelings are just visitors, and every single one of them is here to serve you.
Let them come, let them go, and always be grateful you are alive to feel anything at all .
🤬😅 You ever catch yourself in an aggravating situation with someone where you feel yourself 5 seconds away from losing your shit? Or perhaps the building stress of a standing situation is growing and you can feel yourself inching closer to that breaking point? ( ie you a human? )
🧬In these moments, our beautiful magnificent bodies begin to flush with cortisol and adrenaline, causing us to lose the ability to make sound decisions, or perhaps causing us to lash out and say some shit which we know we’re probably bout to feel some regret and anxiety about for the next couple hours, days, weeks.. I mean, even years if we’re that worked up 😂😬
It’s the feeling of fight or flight- React with power or back away.
‘The fight or flight response is an automatic physiological reaction to an event that is perceived as stressful or frightening. The perception of threat activates the sympathetic nervous system and triggers an acute stress response that prepares the body to fight or flee.’
👊Though sometimes choosing FIGHT may be justified and appropriate, our bodies tense up, our heart rate increases, our breathing becomes fast and shallow, and if uncollected, the after effects on our mind can be costly.
🔋So if you find yourself in this moment, before you react, breathe. Take a deep fuckin breath. Oxygen depletion increases risk of irrational decision making. A few simple deep breaths will flood your lungs and mind with oxygen, allowing you to respond in a much more optimal condition.
Even if you’re by yourself and the threat is your own thoughts. Breathe.
It may seem simple enough to dismiss, but when you think about it, our bodies are wildly complex, and oxygen is our life source.
🌱 Take a deep breath.
You are here.
✨You didn’t come this far to only come this far.✨
Have you been trying to kick a habit/mentality that no longer serves you? Have you beaten yourself up for falling back on your intention?
This is a reminder to cut yourself some slack, and that It’s ok if you’ve slipped up.
Don’t let it discourage you or bring you down for too long, allow yourself to sit on it and reflect on your intention for a moment, then reclaim your power by expressing gratitude for the reminder of the direction you want to go and for your willingness to reflect honestly with yourself -that’s the kind of mindset which is a catalyst for transformation.
Get back on that horse, and forget about obtaining perfection, trying to go ‘0 to 100’ with it right away.
Focus on making it to 20.. master 20, then focus on making it to 40, and master that.
Be patient with yourself, while being persistent with your intentions.
You’ll get there, so long as you keep choosing to move forward, especially after you trip.
Show yourself some fucking love and take this moment to acknowledge how far you’ve truly come.
You are strong, you are powerful, and you’re doing fucking great.
Love you 🙏🏼🧡
This is all for you.
🍋Have you ever had the thought that perhaps everything that is happening around you, is all consciously happening FOR you?
The universe has a divine plan for each and every one of us. And wether we realize it or not, we are all playing a key role in the story of others, just as each and every person on this globe is playing a significant role in ours. Every person you cross paths with throughout your day, every red light that you hit on your drive to work which causes you to sit still for a moment, every elevator that you miss, every interaction you witness at the coffee shop. The birds flying by, the smiles a passerby flashes you, even the unpleasant judgemental looks from that grumpy old man on the bus..
They are all intentionally happening for you, and you are meant to experience each and every one of them.
🌻Despite how insignificant many of these events may appear at first glance, the reality is they make up the very fabric of our existence, they are absorbed by both our conscious and our subconscious minds, they shape and determine our outlook, our mindset and even our entire belief system. The moment they happen, our minds decide on how we're going to interpret them. Once an interpretation is formed, events simply become past experiences which we then use to either support or challenge our existing beliefs. But, you have an ultimate super power. You have the free will and the capability to choose what shade of light you wish to paint these experiences with, determining how they will go on to influence your subconscious and ultimately shape who you are as a person. It’s all happening for you, working simultaneously, in complete harmony, and you are the director of the magnificent tv series that is your life.
✨You have the power to choose if today’s episode is a drama or a comedy.. So next time you’re rushing to work and you get stuck at a red light, catch yourself before you feed into it being “stressful.“ Take a moment to simply be where you are, and consider that its exactly where you’re supposed to be. 🙏🏼
💜 THIS IS ALL FOR YOU